unsoshabl

28 Tips to Build Self Confidence

unsoshabl — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 11:19:24 +0000

Dress Well
Believe in yourself
Express your feelings
Talk to people more (talk to more people even if you don’t no them)
Don’t doubt anything will go wrong for a minute
Say what you think
Don’t worry about what others think of you
Be calm
Look people in the eye
Exercise
Join sports clubs
Avoid negative people (surround yourself with positive people)
Don’t take things too seriously, make jokes and have a laugh
speak with your hands.
Train your thoughts in positive ones *cant means can* *wont means will*
Look in the mirror & tell yourself you can do this!
When your feeling pretty shitty & your out & about imagine everyone naked.
Smile, even to those who dont smile back.
Laugh as loud as you can *not in public or people with think your a loon lol*
Respect the world, respect everything in it, every object and every person. If you see the value in everything you’ll start to see the value in yourself as well
Practice looking in the mirror and talking. Realize what you look like and how you are coming across to other people
Compile a photo album of friends, family and others with you in the pictures
Get in the sunshine.
Set your mood for the day with up beat music.
Help out a stranger
Get a dog! – dogs are great ego boosters! Also a person walking as dog gets a lot more smiles than a person without one. It gives reason for conversation also.
Tell someone u appreciate them
There are number of ways &means you can build confidence.The main thing you need to belive in is yourself!
your just the same as everybody else. you deserve thwe same as anybody else.

*Please note that the above suggestions are not in any particular order and are only suggestions and are in no way a guide and all content within this post was compliled into a list of ideas/suggestions from several friends on help.com*

10 easy tips to help you get over your ex

unsoshabl — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 08:45:23 +0000

It is never easy to get over someone you were emotionally attached to when a break occurs. Sometimes it takes a couple weeks and in severe cases a couple years, however we all know that time heals all. But getting through it is the battle and your mind may go in many directions due to exessive thinking. Here are 10 easy tips to help you get over your ex by clearing your mind: *Please note these are not in any specific order*

Excercize: by exherting energy and working your muscles, the body releases endorphins which are a natural pain killer that also can create a euforic state
Reading: going to a far off land of your choosing in the form of reading can provide a much needed break from the thoughts that are building in your mind
Gaming: Much like reading it will take your focus from your heart and mind to a fantasy land for a pleasant or exciting break
Host Parties: By taking the time to setup your place and enjoying the company can provide hours of relief
Cooking: Much like hosting parties, this can be a short or several hour break. If you are cooking for the party above, this could be a all day break…
Travel: Whether it is a flight around the world or an hour car ride, taking the time to see something new can be a break for your mind, but also may reguvinate your soul
Connect with old friends: catching up on gossip, going to the local coffee shop, or bar-b-queing can provide hours of comfort from your old friend/s
Writing: Putting your thoughts on paper is a great way to release them and break the tension in your mind.
House work: whether redecorating, remodeling or that simple project thats been nagging at you, being creative is a great way to reduce stress
Talking to someone: This is the most effective way to loose the thoughts on your mind. It is better to find someone that doesnt know the EX and preferably hardly knows you. By venting to someone that doesnt know you and hearing an outsiders perspective on your feelings, you are more likely to see how you appear to others. Self image is very important to most and can be a motivator.

Please realize that all suggestions above are to help you stop thinking about the ex/breakup over time. These are temporary solutions to fill time and give your mind a break from an exhausting emotion. Knowing that avoiding the subject all together will only slow the healing process. If you are having a very hard time with your breakup, getting over it is taking a long time, or you are having feelings of harming yourself or anyone else, Please get some professional help. Here is a link if you dont know where to turn.

Long Time

unsoshabl — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 20:18:58 +0000

Once agin, it has been a long time since I have been on. Been busy, or been without internet. IDK, shit changes all the time. I miss getting on here and writing, but I havent been able to write for quite some time. I think the last real thing I wrote was “She Came for Me Today”. Since then I havent gotten anything out. Well I will try to get on at least once a week to make a post. I dont know why I am worried about it, its not like I have any readers anyways. Well till next time… Take care.

Video – I admire this

unsoshabl — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:52:52 +0000

This was sent to me by a couple very dear friends…

We need about 250 more of these congressmen and 100 senetors too.

Perhaps a president that knew what being American is about…

My Debate on Health Care Reform

unsoshabl — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 05:39:21 +0000

I appoiogize for not posting the last few days. Been working hard on a few different projects. I have also been busy reading the health care reform bill. It is full of crap and un-American ways of thought.
I often go to a site called help.com and a question came up of what do ppl have against obamas health reform? so I replied with some of the things I dont like about it. Like raising taxes, peneltys if you dont take it, it is a start to socialism in America, it violates my rights as a citizen.
Our forefathers faught for our independance against a nation that was over bearing in its laws. They faught for our freedoms to live with choices. Choices that we could make without penelty. Now our nations leaders are trying to create laws to go against what many of our forefathers taught and some died for. This isnt right.
if I chose not to buy car insuance, I wouldnt drive as that is a luxury. Life is not a luxury, it is a right. A right we all have. So if I choose not to purchase health insuance does that mean I forfiet my right to live? Thats not fair. Thats like me choosing to own a car to sit my driveway and not drive, but still having to pay for car insuance. Where is the justification in that?
one guy that is debating with me on the other site has epilepsy. I think that was it. He really wants the NHC to go through so he can have health insuance. See insuance companies wont insure him as he is too high risk. I think that the insurance companies should cover him. I think we should pass legislation to allow for ppl born with diseases etc should be covered, but to put in a national health care program is fucking stupid.
I am starting to believe Obama is dpi g this to put his name down I. The history books of one of the greatest presidents. I dont think the hcr act will do anything but put our country in a more dire situation.
I have been very upset about this topic the last few days. I just dont get why ppl are so blind to see what they are doing and the freedoms they are taking away from us. What will it be next after this?

Btw, sorry this is short, had to post it from my phone.

She came for me today…. 2

unsoshabl — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 06:15:01 +0000

“come my dear lets get this over with”
She reaches for my blood drenched hand
My eyes fixed pupils large and set
Staring at her beautiful body through a tight translucent black mesh garment wrapping her body

with a long dark cloak draped around her neck and down her back to the ground
Her bitter cold gripped my fingers and palm
Ice growing through my now empty veins
As the crystaling reached my shoulder I jerked away
Reclaiming the hold on my life and ripping it from her cold death grip
I scream out in pain as the throbbing of nerves now being rewarmed from freshly pumped blood
Should I could I would I
Take the chance to seduce this gorgeous being of death
Run seduce kill torment
What choice do I make to escape this curse

In a fast and smooth swoop this gorgeous creature was wrapped under my uninjured arm
Her supple firm breast and tough tender thighs pressed hard against me

the cold sending a tremble through me from through the thin mesh she wore
She gasped when as it occurred that turned in to a long moan
knowing full well if I gave in to my weakness of pleasure
I would never keep my life
a life I now crave, respect, and admire
I slowly kiss her cheek, jaw line, neck
all the while this creature of beauty and darkness moaning
kissing up her neck to the bottom of her ear lobe
I whisper ever so softly, come back tonight
I will go with you after taking you…

To my astonishment she agreed
“with one term” she said
“I must take something now so I know your truthful”
her icey hand grabbed mine and she brought it her mouth
suddenly my right index finger was soaked in bitter cold
as it was now in her mouth
a torrent of pain ripped through me as she bit down
my hand now free, minus a finger
a small chuckle came from this beast
“I have your finger which holds what little confidence you once had”

*please note I had to change the dates to allow them to be in order*

She came for me today

unsoshabl — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 03:47:50 +0000

Death came to me this day
Sweetness on her breath as the words poured,
“with sadness I inform you that it is time to pay
A good life you made worthless… you must defend it.. in the highest of courts,
And this court will decide fire or bliss behind pearly gates”
In return I scream “whos choice to decide its my time
I dont agree with others deciding my fate
Even if the hell Icreated is in my head… This is no crime
Not for you them or anyone but me to choose”
Her stunning green and red eyes peircing me from behind her black vail
“my son this if this is a fight… You lose
Clenching that knife to your wrist… You already fail”

“what knife” I exclaim
Looking down and realizing my choice
Realizing my life is so very lame
Pain and Fear shaking in my voice
Blood rolling down my wrist to elbow
weaving in and out of the hair
Realizing I have hit a new low
I really do care,
Why, who, what, how
The questions keep coming
As I hear voices of friends family and foe
So fast and constant like a hum.

“Smart, pleasant, giving and caring” said one,
“Kind, loving, thoughtful and fun” said another,
As I listen from below, the weeps of those I love
My body sitting alone in a wood box,
my life no longer in exsistance,
I can no longer change my action,
I now completely understand regret.

*please note I had to change the dates to allow them to be in order*

Wanting

unsoshabl — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 04:50:46 +0000

I am now thinking it is time for a change. I am tired of being the person I am. I use to be a little more ambitious, goal oriented, and happy. Since the layoff, I have been miserable. I have realized that there is so much for me to do with my life and that I have passed on opportunitys that could have made me so much more of the man I desire to be.

I am ready to get this clothing company off the ground an I am ready to take the risks involved to get it done. If I lose a little money, so be it!

I have been offered free housing on a boat in a marina in San diego. I have pondered this so much. I want to do it so badly, but then again I do twant to lose out on the relationships I have formed here in phoenix.

Right now I am confident, but confused as hell too!

New day

unsoshabl — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 05:23:37 +0000

Well today has come and gone. A new day on the horizon and I am looking to a brighter day at that. Today I sat down with a friend here at the bar and explained the clothing company I am trying to start. It was really refreshing to hear someone be excited for it besides me and my partner. A lot of other ppl I have mentioned it to have been some what negative about it in the sense of saying it is going to be difficult and thinking it wont take off and that it is a waste of money.

well on my defense it isnt much money that I am investing. And yes it will be a lot of work, but I am not afraid of hard work and dedication. Exspecially since this will be one of my dreams coming to life. I have been dreaming of this for years and now it is closer than ever.

Anyways, I am excited and looking forward to the challege. We shall see where it takes me.

On the other front lines of my life, it is quiet and there are a few hiccups along the way, but that is ok. Well I sappose it is time to get back to the bar life.

Take care and happy days to you!

New Day, Same Shitty Feeling

unsoshabl — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 05:09:01 +0000

Well here I sit another night at the bar being somewhat bored and lonesome. Of course I have my wonderful friends and that means a lot to me. But anyways, tomorrow is a new day. I am working on starting my clothing company, but it is going slow as finances are hard as fuck right now.

I went to work today and of course the bosses were not there. So I left and went to run errands for my mom. While at my moms I called the bosses, but no answer. So no pay today. This is getting frustrating. I mean I am there for them when they need me, but I just dont understand what is so hard about being honest about what is going on. If you cant pay me, tell me and I will still be there for you.

anyways I am tired of being broke. I am sitting at the bar (2 nights in a row now) being broke. I am starving. I had a hamburger, corn, and beans yesterday only because a sweet friend of mine invited me to a BBQ. But like last night I went to bed hungry. I had to munch a little at moms today, but I am sure I will go to bed hungry again tonight. Owell. Life goes on and it prolly wont hurt me to lose a few pounds.
I have been building a site for my friends. It is fun and I am starting the hard stuff like creating a database and front end for it. Fun, but difficult.

I need to find a couple ppl a month to buy websites from me and I can make a living that way until I can get my clothing company started.

anyway, time me to get back looking better than a sloth on a phone being lame.

Take care and post soon!